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'If you want to go fast, go alone, if you want to go far, go together. African Proverb


Have you ever felt lonely, disconnected, isolated? Most of us will experience loneliness in some form or another at some point of our life.


Thoughts such as, 'no one cares' and 'no one understands me' often arise at these times


Today rather than focus on the problems of loneliness, let us focus on how you can feel more connected to others.


Deeper, meaningful relationships help us to feel a strong connection with people. Relationships that are nurtured, equal and loving offer us a sense of comfort and well being.

A sense of warmth and feeling cared for.


First of all it is important in my experiences and knowledge, to learn to have a good relationship with yourself, yes you.

We need to understand ourselves, our likes and dislikes, our behaviours and what makes us tick. Being caring to yourself will mean you can give to others and expect that you are treated with the same treatment. You deserve to be treated well. 


Treating others with consideration and giving time and attention will often be given back to you in many different ways, by different people. Notice the difference when you go into a shop to buy something and the person takes time to talk to you, be friendly and kind. Yes they may be doing their job, but nonetheless you will leave feeling much happier than when someone has not looked at you, been rude or flippant with you.


Surrounding yourself with people who have similar beliefs, attitudes and morals to yourself will give you support. 


Relationships, the way you relate to others, is the simple way to live. We don't need to complicate the issue, we just need to recognise our own behaviour towards others and if we cannot change it alone find someone to support you to be able to recognise the reasons you may not be able to relate to others.


There is never a magic cure to finding an instant fix to our difficulties, however working on the solution and recognising this takes effort and commitment will enable movement.


To find out more on how you can find support on relationships please visit my website


www.windmilsoftheminds.com


Book references

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Soulmate-Experience-Practical-Extraordinary-Relationships/dp/0984562206/ref=sr_1_23?ie=UTF8&qid=1476572064&sr=8-23&keywords=relationships


https://www.amazon.co.uk/Loving-Yourself-Another-Self-esteem-Relationships/dp/0091856760/ref=sr_1_14?ie=UTF8&qid=1476571995&sr=8-14&keywords=relationships

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